cropped-frontcover.jpgHattie Bryant has written an important and timely book that approaches a difficult topic with sensitivity born out of her own experience.  This isn’t just a book to read but one to use to guide discussion and planning.  Everyone with an interest in living life to the fullest should read and use this book.”
Joseph J. Gallo
, MD, MPH, Professor, Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health

The majority of patients and their families facing serious illness that will predictably end with death want enough information to be informed, prepared, and confident. The most recent research continues to confirm that modern healthcare systems don’t routinely meet those needs. The research also shows that physicians and other health care professionals will provide information if the patient and/or family bring it up. Hattie Bryant’s carefully researched book, written from a patient’s perspective in a style that your best friend might use over a cup of coffee, is a way to empower the people who most need it to get the information they need.”
Charles F. von Gunten, MD, PhD Editor-in-Chief, Journal of Palliative Medicine, Vice President, Medical Affairs Hospice & Palliative Care OhioHealth

We live in a death-denying society.  No one wants to talk or think about, and certainly not make plans for it.  So it makes sense that when it is our turn to die (and we all have an appointment), we are many times not prepared.  Hattie Bryant candidly and compellingly confronts this issue in I’ll Have it My Way.  While it is vital for people to think about and make plans for what they want before they have been diagnosed with a serious, possibly life-threatening illness, human nature all too often works against our better self. The trend of adult children also caring for aging parents compounds the issue, but Hattie provides a powerful and encouraging companion guide for decision-making that will equip the reader with both a sense of freedom and great peace, too.”
Pam Malloy, RN, MN, FPCN  Director and Co-Investigator of the ELNEC Project, American Association of Colleges of Nursing (AACN)

Finding a way to motivate people like us to think about the choices and decisions that need to be made when we are confronted with a serious life-threatening illness has always been difficult, because it raises the possibility or even probability of dying and death. We would prefer not to think about it, much less talk about it with family, friends, and our physicians. This is painful, emotional stuff. Knowledge is power. Knowing the flaws and gaps in care that currently exist in modern medical care for the chronically ill, the fragile elderly, and those with incurable disease helps us develop a plan to have a voice in the care we receive in the future, when it’s our turn. It is important to make a plan now, before we get too ill to make good decisions.

“Hattie Bryant, determined to help others avoid the difficulties she and her mother endured as her mother died, has used her communication and organization skills to provide the steps to guide you in this process. An experienced educator, she has had the advice and counsel of many national experts in palliative care, geriatrics, oncology, bioethics, psychology, and spirituality in writing this book for you. Have it your way.”
John P. (Jack) Mc Nulty, MD,  FACP, FAAHPM

“For thirty years I’ve worked in a hospital setting, including the first twenty as a social worker in ICU. In that time, I’ve counseled hundreds of patients and their families as they struggled with decisions concerning their loved one’s serious illness or end-of-life care without the benefit of previous planning and communication. Hattie Bryant’s own experience as an advocate for her dying mother affords her the opportunity to credibly and passionately present the case for personal responsibility in the healthcare and end-of-life decisions that await us all. Using the valuable thought processes and exercises in this book to guide our personal plans, we can remove the burden of difficult decision-making from our loved ones and focus instead on living our lives fully to the end.”
Elizabeth Chaitin, DHCE, MA, MSW
Director of Quality and Ethics,  University of Pittsburgh Medical Center
Palliative and Supportive Institute

​​​”In our fast moving culture, people want control over everything. Yet, the one thing people decline to take control of is their death. We have a society that refuses to admit it is the one thing we all have in common. Therefore empowering people in the process is critical. I’ll Have It My Way is a tool to guide people to considering one’s values, priorities, and preferences for life and death. With the input of experts from all disciplines and specialties, the book reflects the most current literature. Written in a familiar tone, it is as if Hattie is sitting beside the reader and her voice offers support and encouragement. The result is an advance care plan that includes a designation of a trusted person to speak for someone when they can’t, instructions for the type of care a person wants, and a description of what is important. And when someone dies, their friends and family will be able to say it was done their way.”
Constance Dahlin, ANP-BC, ACHPN, FPCN, FAAN
Faculty, Harvard Medical School Center for Palliative Care